13 Weeks to Change a Life

For the next 13 weeks we are taking a journey...to change our finances...to change our marriages...to change our perspectives...to change our future...to change our lives.

Financial Peace University is a course about finances, of course. But it can affect every area of your life if you let it. Use it to its fullest. Join in, jump in...it will change your life.

Thirteen weeks is a long time. Thirteen weeks is not a long time. Thirteen weeks is enough time...

...to form a habit...to change your life.

Don't just take the course. Don't just show up. Read the book. Do the homework. Think about the concepts. Apply them to your life.

Practice. Try. Stumble. Get up. Practice. Try. Learn. Press on. Practice. Try. Do it. Do it for 13 weeks.

It's hard. It's not easy. But decide today to engage this process of learning and changing. Decide today which habits are holding you back or need to change. Maybe it's your spending. Maybe it's your communication with your spouse. Maybe it's your patience (think debt). Maybe it's your accountability. Maybe it's your giving. Maybe it's your attention (as in, paying more of it).

Change your habits and change your life. Thirteen weeks is enough time for that.

I don't know what you are facing but I hope in the next 13 weeks you do just that - FACE IT - and begin to take the steps necessary to change...your finances...your marriage...your perspectives...your future...your life.

If you don't read anything else today...

I ran across a couple of old posts in another blog that I wanted to pass on today. These are excellent in many respects and I wanted you to read them and apply them to your life.

http://www.leadingsmart.com/leadingsmart/2006/08/it_just_makes_c.html

http://www.leadingsmart.com/leadingsmart/2007/03/lets_give_1_mil.html

By the way - thanks for reading. I should post more often or in a predictable pattern...maybe I'll set that as a goal in the next few months...maybe! I appreciate your involvement in this blog by reading, considering, applying, and occasionally even commenting. I just wanted to say, THANKS!

There Are Always Options

So it's Thanksgiving Day and my family is driving to Wichita to celebrate the holiday. We are getting close to my parents' home when I hear a clatter under the hood. I pull over thinking something has come unclipped and needs to be reattached, but no, it is the serpentine belt coming apart. The outer two edges are flopping wildly, slashing at vacuum hoses, etc., under the hood. Doesn't look good, but at least it didn't break!

We made it to my parents' home. My brother-in-law came out to pick up our family (he has a minivan, too!) to take us to the place of our Thanksgiving celebration (not feeling so festive at the moment). He loaned us his van after taking his family home so we could get back to my parents' and return for a visit the next day. Instead of visiting my sister, my dad, my brother, and I worked on the van, replacing what seemed like everything on the passenger side of the motor (including the water pump for you Dave Ramsey fans). Total cost: $140 and a lot of inconvenience on a holiday weekend.

The advice I want to pass on today is simple, but we often bypass it in the stress or emotion of the moment.

Consider your options

But what do I know about repairing a car? It is so cold and this is a special weekend. I should spend it with family, not repairing the car. Again, consider your options.

Who do you know that could help? My brother-in-law was willing to help with a ride and a temporary vehicle. My dad and brother were willing to help with the repairs (both time and expertise). All I had to do was lay down some pride and frustration to allow for the blessing of their generous gift. More than likely you know someone who could help. You just have to ask. Whatever happened to neighbors and friends helping each other? Don't let the spirit of giving lapse. Look for opportunities to help others and ask for help when you need it.

What must be done and what can wait? I am often tempted to do things that are unnecessary for convenience. "While I'm at it, I might as well..." Thankfully, I don't use credit cards. Back in those days, I would have not only rationalized the repairs to the van, but probably a new set of tires as well! While a new set of tires might be nice, and even needed in the near future, they were not necessary to fix the problem at hand. So, if they weren't in the plan for the month, they should wait. Especially when facing something unexpected, stick to the necessary. Times of crisis are not the best to make decisions - especially financial ones.

What can you really afford? You can afford whatever you can fit into your budget for the month! But isn't this what an emergency fund is for? Yes - and no. I could have coughed up several hundred dollars that Friday to have a shop do the work. It would have been well within the $1,000 baby emergency fund we have in the bank. It was VERY tempting. Don't use the emergency fund unless you have an emergency - and almost nothing is really an emergency. If everything is an emergency, you won't have an emergency fund left when a real emergency comes along! Try, if at all possible, to find it in your budget.

What are you willing to do to win? Stay focussed on the goal. Remember, there are times when we "live like no one else so later, we can live like no one else." Even though it was in my emergency fund, I am closer to my goal of being debt-free because I didn't spend the money on labor. It took some effort, some discomfort, and inconvenience, but in the end it was worth it. I got to spend some great time with my dad and brother, fixed the van, and was actually able to budget the repair into my December budget rather than tapping the emergency fund. Remember, it's your behavior that leads you to win.

This post is not to toot my own horn, but to give a real-life example of how it is done. I run into people all the time who have lots of excuses why they are not getting traction financially. They "don't have a choice." They refuse to consider their options.

You may have to take your car to the shop because you truly cannot do the repair yourself and don't know anyone who can help. That's okay IF you truly have no options. It may not even be your car that is the concern. But whatever you are facing, always consider your options.

Make exploring and utilizing the options you have a habit. If you are willing to do a little extra work, suffer a little inconvenience, and allow some people in your life the opportunity to help, you will find there are many different ways - many options - to solve the problem you are facing, whether it is financial or otherwise.

On taxes, the wealthy, and spreading it all around

Join me, if you will, on a little anecdotal jaunt... On second thought, let me warn you that you may not want to. This could be painful or even maddening to you. Ok, if you aren't up to reading the tough stuff, just skip to the end.

There has been a lot of talk in the news lately about these implicitly selfish wealthy people and the weak middle class. Now I fit firmly within the middle class category, so nothing I write is from pure self-interest. But I have been thinking...

Most people by now surely have heard that the top 1% of taxpayers pay around 35% of all federal income taxes; the top 5% pay around 55% of the whole; the top 10% pay around 66%; and the top 25% pay around 84%. No matter on what the latest or most precise percentages are because the general idea is clear, and this post is all about general rules. They do, after all, become general rules because they generally are the rule.

There is no reason in the United States today that everyone cannot be a millionaire. Well, there is a reason, but I'll get to that later. The formula is very simple.

Like I said, I have been thinking. What makes rich people rich, middle class people middle class, and the "underprivileged" poor? In general terms, the same reason everyone is not a millionaire. Follow with me...

When wealthy people make lots and lots of money, what do they do with it? Let's see...they buy nice homes (except for Warren Buffet), they buy expensive cars (except for Sam Walton), they buy other stuff, they invest, they save, and they give. I notice their names on university buildings, hospitals, and church wings (for those churches that put names on wings). No, it seems the wealthy spread their wealth voluntarily to accomplish a number of charitable purposes. So why does the government need to get involved? And anyone in nonprofit work knows how most organizations are able to do extraordinary things because of the extraordinary generosity of a few, to whom much was given. Interesting.

So I'm curious, would raising taxes on the wealthy beyond the great amount they already pay be an attempt to shift those dollars away from charity to the government? Would the government be better at determining how to use those dollars for social good than the donors who actually earned the money? I am envisioning foreign countries I have visited. They have a "strong" middle class that relies on government to do and build everything. There are no names on hospitals or other "institutional" buildings. The wealthy are those in the government bureaucracy or with close ties and they don't do much charitable giving except with public money. Government is strong. Charity is weak. Okay, so that was admittedly a rant. But it's my blog and you had fair warning.

What about the middle class? What might we do with a raise, a bonus, or a tax refund check? Move toward becoming wealthy? WE PAY OFF DEBT, right? Now that is a great answer. But it begs the question, where did the debt come from? The answer to that question can often be found in another question. Why does the middle class stay the middle class over long stretches of time? Ouch. We stretched on the home purchase, filled it with nice furniture, kept up on the latest gadgetry, and entered the process of either leasing or making perpetual car payments. Middle class neighborhood are filled with all the stuff of wealthy neighborhoods but lack one fundamental similarity - the money to pay for it all. We have no savings, our giving is pathetic, and investing is out of the question.

This one could be touchy. The "underprivileged"? I have seen many people face insurmountable odds, but make wise choices, and press through to thrive. These were most often uneducated and certainly underprivileged folks. For example, most of our immigrant populations. And the Jewish communities that have faced persecution and discrimination that have thrived with little intervention. I recently heard of a local country club that opened up membership to Jews within the last 7 - 10 years. Astounding. Anyway, so what keeps poor people poor over long periods of time? And I could ask along with that, who has seen the greatest success in actually combating poverty in the United States - government or charity (so should we raise taxes or incentivize wealth and charitable giving)? When poor people receive a windfall, they rarely know exactly where it went, but certainly it is gone. It might go to the retail shopping outlet, a car dealership, or any number of places. I would venture to say it never goes to charitable giving, saving, or investing.

Poverty is a curse. The way to fight it is to get people out from under the curse, not to throw money at them. Studies have shown that if the world's wealth were evenly distributed, disparities would return within 6 years I believe. As the old proverb says, "A fool and his money are soon parted."

Thank you for letting me get all that off my chest. I feel better now.

Now for the reason everyone in America today is not a millionaire...

Yes, if you have read many of my posts you might have guessed it - BEHAVIOR - and that starts with you, not the government (not even the president).

So let me give you a little formula for success that I may have previously shared.

Give.
Save.
Then spend.

Or, as financial expert Ron Blue testified before Congress, "Live on less than you make. Then save and invest the difference over a long period of time."

You can do it. It is up to you. When your behavior follows these steps, mathematics takes over and abundance is automatically created. No matter who is president and no matter what the tax rates become, following these principles will naturally lead to wealth and success. And what do you do then (besides pay more taxes)? As Dave Ramsey says, "Once you have lived like no one else, you can live like no one else and you can give like no one else."

Don't wait on government. And don't worry too much about government (but DO get informed, think it through on your own - don't just listen to campaign rhetoric - and VOTE!). I could go on for hours, but I'll stop. Let me leave you with this verse that stretches out over this whole discussion-

"11Your power is great, and your glory is seen everywhere in heaven and on earth. You are king of the entire world, 12and you rule with strength and power. You make people rich and powerful and famous. 13We thank you, our God, and praise you. 14But why should we be happy that we have given you these gifts? They belong to you, and we have only given back what is already yours." 1 Chronicles 29:11 - 14 (Contemporary English Version)

Read it in several versions to let the truth get planted deep within you. And remember what my Dad told me right about this time of year in 1992: "That's why we put our trust in God instead of men." Wise words.

Seek Wisdom in Troubled Times

These days, it is easy to get lazy in our thinking. No longer do we watch the news for news, we now watch for analysis. In fact, many entire shows are devoted to analysis of and commentary on the "news." Yes, the analysts abound and we hardly know how to think for ourselves.

If you are careful in your choice of analysts, you will arrive at good conclusions most of the time. But if not...

Now I firmly believe in evaluating writers, analysts, bloggers, etc., and finding a choice few that you really feel represent your approach, viewpoint, and ethic, but don't leave the thinking to them. Don't allow your inquiry to stop there. Don't get lazy. Do your own research. Consider your "advisors." Reach your own conclusions.

Keep learning. Keep reading. Keep thinking! And don't forget to inquire of the Lord as your Chief Advisor. The Bible says He gives wisdom freely to those who ask.

"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." - James 1:5 (NIV)

It takes wisdom to navigate this world with it's abundance of information so readily available.

As you hear about all the turmoil, remember, the news media is owned almost exclusively by corporate giants interested primarily in profits, not news. They report what sells in the way it sells ("If it bleeds, it leads."). Don't let them tell you what you "need" to know.

One of the results of living in God's Kingdom and seeking His wisdom should be peace (Romans 14:17). And you'll not likely find that in the media, in the analysts' reports, or in the commentary. But if you'll learn, read, think, and seek God's Kingdom first, you might catch a different view of world and financial events. You might find wisdom.

"For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are better than gold." - Proverbs 3:14

The article link below is not from a Christian viewpoint necessarily, but is one I found interesting and wanted to pass along for your review as you read, learn, and think for yourself - and perhaps wonder whether civilization as we know it is about to come to an end. Note the date it was originally published. The world didn't end then either.

Economic Chronicles: The Money Mirage

Click here http://www.aier.org/research/commentaries/158-the-money-mirage-an-introduction for original article.

Seasons of Correction

"...[E]conomic conditions influence homeownership. The rate [of home ownership] fell during or immediately following most business-cycle recessions, with the most sizable and lasting decrease taking place after the double recession of 1980-1982. The only recession that did not result in a downturn in homeownership was the recession in 2001, a period of extremely loose monetary policy." (emphasis mine)

- Commentary by Polina Vlasenko posted by the American Institute of Economic Research (http://www.aier.org/research/commentaries/533-home-ownership-in-the-united-states)

I think it is notable that the blowout in the housing market and economy came after the government intervened in the natural course of things in 2001 with "extremely loose monetary policy." People were overspending, buying houses beyond their means, and rather than allow or even encouraging wrong behavior to be corrected, the government did the opposite. So people pressed on in ignorant bliss until it eventually, it all began to fall.

Market corrections are natural. They fix problems that exist in the markets. They clear the incompetence from certain workforces. And they should be allowed to occur (perhaps even embraced). Corrections, pullbacks, and downturns are natural seasons of life. And like the four seasons, each passes with time into a new season. Important things are happening in the process. Lessons are being learned.

If you are expecting the government, or the next president to solve your problems, it won't happen. There are success stories during all economic conditions - and they didn't originate in Washington. Take the reigns of your problems and go to work making a plan and following that plan. Your life should not be governed by the media, economic conditions, or who is in the Oval Office. One of Stephen Covey's Habits of Highly Successful People is being Proactive. Happen to your life. Don't wait for someone to fix your problem.

Opportunities still abound in this great Land. Jobs are still being landed. Businesses are still being formed. Houses are still selling (even in Michigan).

If you have made a big mistake, there may be some consequences to pay. Take the hit, make the change moving forward, and head toward a better and wiser future. It is going to take hard work and exploring lots of options. Apply again. Make some more phone calls. Try a new agent. Keep exploring. Keep trying. Never Give Up! Persistence is the key.

A common list of the failures of Abraham Lincoln (along with a few successes) is:

1831 - Lost his job
1832 - Defeated in run for Illinois State Legislature
1833 - Failed in business
1834 - Elected to Illinois State Legislature (success)
1835 - Sweetheart died
1836 - Had nervous breakdown
1838 - Defeated in run for Illinois House Speaker
1843 - Defeated in run for nomination for U.S. Congress
1846 - Elected to Congress (success)
1848 - Lost re-nomination
1849 - Rejected for land officer position
1854 - Defeated in run for U.S. Senate
1856 - Defeated in run for nomination for Vice President
1858 - Again defeated in run for U.S. Senate
1860 - Elected President (success)

You might notice, he never gave up.

Galatians 6:9 (TNIV) says, "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."

As always, if I can help you walk through an issue in your life, please contact me.

Money Reflects Priorities

This week I decided to post this interesting little blurb I received from Rick Boxx with Integrity Resource Center (http://www.integrityresource.org/). IRC works to "restore integrity and faith at work" and is an amazing resource especially for businesses, business owners, and business leaders. Check out all the resources they have to offer on the website. If you need to talk to someone about issues you are facing in your business and what God might think about them, give IRC a call. Additionally, at the website you can sign up to receive these daily Integrity Moments if you wish.

Megamansions: Good or Bad for Business?

Two university professors may have come up with a new way of analyzing stocks. David Yermack and Crocker Liu's unusual study concluded that CEOs with bigger houses risk poor stock performance. In the study, companies of CEOs with megamansions performed 7% worse on average than their peers, whereas CEOs with smaller homes outperformed the S&P by 22%.

But why should it matter? Is there any real correlation between house size and company performance?

Luke 16 offers a parable about a wealthy man, who decided to tear down all his barns and build bigger ones. Jesus warned him, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

The way you spend your money reflects what is important to you. If amassing more wealth is your priority, you may meet your goal, but lose sight of even more valuable things, things that are truly worth pursuing.

Just Do It!

I'm tired. I've been busy. I haven't been as productive as normal. I haven't written my weekly blog for a few weeks. A lot of life has felt out of my control. So what's the problem here? ME!

My attitude, my actions, my discipline, my responses to circumstances and even feelings all have one thing in common. They are mine. I can allow them, adjust them, change them - whatever. It's up to me.

One of the things that slid this month was creating our family budget (I just finished it last night - 8+ days late). I was on vacation (excuse), then I was catching up at work (excuse), and meetings, responsibilities, interruptions (excuse, excuse, excuse)...

Cash flow planning (budgeting) is the fundamental key to success with money. A new budget should be in place and agreed upon by spouses before the month begins. But it is also the hardest thing to implement and maintain - especially when we don't feel like it.

Winning with money is all about BEHAVIOR. That's why it is so hard. If we don't change our behaviors, our finances won't change. If we do change our behaviors, our money situation will change, too. Make a plan and stick to it! Write it down and evaluate it weekly.

When it comes to doing these hard things, I often think back to what Dave Ramsey say in the first lesson of Financial Peace University: what if my child's life was on the line? It was all up to me. Could I find a way to get this stuff done? YOU BET! I could. It's a morbid question but it makes the point--

IT IS POSSIBLE. NO MORE EXCUSES! It is a question of priority and willingness to DO WHATEVER IT TAKES.

I believe there are only two reasons why we have financial distress:

1) We have made a decision that is out of our financial position (e.g., bought a home or car with a payment that throws the fixed expense out of line) or

2) We are not managing our money well.

To fix 1), SELL IT.

To fix 2), BUDGET IT.

But no matter what, in the immortal words of Nike, JUST DO IT!

Our journey

We are coordinating our second Financial Peace University at Antioch starting August 23. I was thinking back over some of our journey and thought it might encourage someone who finds themselves along the way...

When I completed my formal education, Carrie and I had been married almost two years and had about $60,000 in debt. We should have been terrified (our debt was about twice our income at that moment), but I actually rationalized that it wasn't too bad. I had bought into the "good debt, bad debt" myth and the "car debt is inevitable - at least early on" myth. Since "good debt" (student loans) and "normal" debt (cars) made up most of our debt load, I actually thought our overall debt load to be reasonable at our stage in life. And Carrie trusted me with our money.

Over the next couple of years I got a job, Carrie quit hers to stay home with our new family, we changed cars, bought a house, and lived a bunch of life. During this time our debt load varied slightly, but we were basically in the same place, only we now had a house that needed a complete remodel. Now that's a great place for a young broke family!

About this time we went through Crown Financial Ministries' small group study and started getting serious about our money. We began to make some adjustments, but with all of life that happens while starting a family and the busyness, we still weren't giving it enough focus or intensity. Debt at this time was probably around $50,000 (without the house) and we were trying to get the debt related to our remodel paid off.

Let me break here to ask a question. Why had we not gained more traction? There are lots of answers that I find are common to about everyone who is struggling:

• We had not broken the cycle of debt. We were still using credit cards while trying to pay them off.


• We were not both intimately involved in our family's finances.


• We were not in complete unity on the level of sacrifice we should make to get ahead.


• We were not using a monthly spending plan.


• We were still reacting to circumstances rather than living our financial life on purpose. We weren't being intentional enough.


• We were not exercising the hard work, discipline, and diligence needed to win with money.

What really got me motivated was watching my kids grow up and realizing just how short time really is. The 4th baby was coming. School was going to start in a couple of years for our oldest. Teenage years were soon to follow. Cars would have to be purchased and insured. The roof would need to be replaced, along with the furnace and air conditioner - not to mention retirement and college savings (for which TIME invested is one of the determinants to success).

And since our kids were born so close together, once the first hits any stage in life, the others follow, like, immediately. In other words, most of my saving for each stage in life had to take place before our first reached that stage.

Carrie has always been an amazing wife and she got behind me on reaching the goals for our future. She became especially motivated during the Financial Peace University class we coordinated.

So, things had to change. How did we get into debt? Not paying attention. Dave Ramsey says, "You can stumble into debt in our culture but you will never stumble out." How did we get out? Focused intensity. It's the only way.

New rules:

• We make a written spending plan (budget) every month, spending every dollar on paper on purpose before the month begins.


• We communicate regularly about our money, making changes to the budget as necessary. Spending all the money on paper requires us to find offsets anytime there is an additional expense we had not accounted for. And Carrie is very involved in this process.


• We use cash everywhere possible to hold ourselves accountable to our spending plan, make wiser spending decisions, and negotiate bargains.


• We don't use credit cards at all.


• We pray about this regularly.

What else?

• We saved $1,000 in the bank as a starter emergency fund.


• We began paying off our debts smallest to largest with a vengeance.


• We picked up extra work to advance the cause.


• We got very diligent about our finances.


• We held off on some wants that sometimes felt like needs.

That was just under one year ago. Today, we have about $11,000 in student loans to go. Everything else is GONE FOREVER. By the end of next year we will be debt-free (except our home), have an emergency fund of 3 - 6 months expenses, and will have cash-flowed a 10-year anniversary resort stay in Cancun.

We are on our way to Financial Peace! Two years of hard work to change our future. Well worth it! And let me assure you of one thing - WE ARE NEVER GOING BACK!

It's a given for me but let me be very clear - To God be all the praise, honor, and glory. We are applying His principles, His truth, and trusting in His provision. We are given strength by His Spirit and are encouraged by His people. He is the Lord of our lives.

I do quite a bit of financial counseling and I have yet to see a situation beyond two years of hard work and sacrifice from being cleaned up. The only question is whether the family is willing to pay the price.

If you are tired of living with the financial stress ... if you work too hard and make too much money to be this broke, please contact me or join a Financial Peace University class near you. This will change your life!

I plan to...

I talk to people daily who say, "I plan to...." I now reply, "Really? Let's see it." They normally respond with some variation of, "Huh?"


The oft quoted rule of law states, "If it is not in writing, it never happened." Consider this: "If it isn't written down, it won't happen."


It is amazing how we (yes, me included) approach lifetime goals and make important decisions without a plan that's specific enough to get us anywhere near our desired destination. We plan to... but we don't really have a plan.


Related to their finances people often say, "We try to save money, but we never seem to get anywhere." Again, I ask, "Let's see your plan." And get the normal reply. Financial expert Dave Ramsey often says, "Normal is broke. Be weird!"


If you plan to go on vacation next summer, what is your plan to pay for it? You need to have a plan. If you plan to buy your kids Christmas gifts, what are you saving toward that each month? You need to have a plan. If you plan to ever re-pace your work schedule (sometimes called retirement), how much do you need to save to draw from during those years? You need to have a plan. Few people like the word, budget but practically, it just means, money plan.


A monthly family budget needs to include all the things we plan to do. We plan to pay our rent or mortgage payment, utilities, groceries, etc. But what about the other planned spending (e.g., gifts, vacation, insurance, taxes, etc.)? Writing all of this down on paper before the month begins is a vital component to your financial success. Each month should begin with this plan in place.

• Write it down

Spend every dollar you are going to receive - on paper, on purpose. Spend each paycheck in order of importance and due date until you have used the entire check on the page. Your most important plans should take priority. If you are struggling, start with food, shelter, utilities, transportation, and clothing. These are the basic necessities of life. Take care of them before anything else (and even if someone else doesn't get paid this month).

• Agree on it with your spouse or accountability partner

Those of us who are married MUST work together if the money is going to work. Some need accountability so as to not make impulse buys. Others need the input from their spouse so the family actually has a life (I tend to squeeze the budget so tight there is no money for fun)! Both spouses have a voice in the process. Singles need the accountability of a trusted friend who is willing to ask tough questions. They don't have a say in the final decision, but wise advice should always be regarded.

• Review it weekly for changes and to stay on target.

Remember, you have spent every dollar you are going to receive, so if there is a change - either an expense that was greater than planned or something unplanned, you will have to find the money somewhere else. But you are making the decision on purpose. You are making decisions based on true priorities - what is most important. These offsetting adjustments force you to stay within your total budget.

As is often the case with topics related to money, planning affects many other areas of life. If you plan to improve your marriage or other relationship, you need to have a plan. What are the steps you are going to take today...tomorrow...next week.... If you plan to get married, you need to have a plan. What characteristics are non-negotiable? If you plan to move ahead in your career or get a better job, what are you doing to move that direction? Is there a class you need to take or training you need to go through?

In our pursuit to be more like God, we have to ask the question, "What is God like?" I know one thing - God has a plan - and He wrote it down.

In the Bible Jeremiah the prophet wrote to the people of Israel who were exiled in Babylon, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans for wholeness and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." (Jer. 29:11) I believe these words hold true for the people of God everywhere.

On the other hand, 1 Peter 5:8b says, "Your adversary, the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour." It is important that we realize that if we don't have a plan, someone has one for us!

We all need to have a plan for our life and our money - written down - and it needs to be God's plan. The alternative it not pretty. I have seen estates, budgets, families, and individuals "devoured" by nothing more than lack of planning.

Take the time. Develop your plan. Write it down. If I can help in any way, please contact me.

Communicate!

I recently made a follow-up inquiry. You know what I mean. I had sent an initial inquiry but never heard back. The receiver of my inquiry failed to communicate. I would rather get a negative response than no response at all. How can you just not respond?

I have found that poor communication is common in our world today. A good friend of mine says, "Most people just aren't good at communicating." I later realized he was not commenting on the quality of their communication. He was saying that most people today aren't good at initiating communication (or responding) - keeping those who need to know informed. They simply don't do it.

My wife and I have found this to be true when we host an event. We used to plainly ask for an RSVP. The response rate was in the 10% range. Poor. Like my friend says - most people just don't communicate well. It was very difficult to plan for the event not knowing whether to expect 2 people or 20.

I have a lot of room to grow here, too. Keeping everyone informed sometimes seems unnecessary and takes some time. But people need to know. People need communication.

One of the important keys to winning with money is communication.

You might be way behind on a bill and are avoiding calls from the creditor. Communicate! Better yet, be proactive. You often know there is trouble coming before they do. Let them know. Will it solve the problem? Not likely, but it demonstrates good faith, strength of character, and is always better than ignoring them. Sometimes they can work with you - especially if you have initiated. Make the phone call today.

Maybe you can't seem to get traction in the monthly finances. "You spent what!?" Are you communicating with your spouse? Most divorces are said to result from money fights - a form of poor communication. But you should be able to have regular, constructive and open dialogue between spouses about this important area of life. Sit down tonight after the kids are in bed, hold his/her hands, look into their eyes and explain that this is an important area for the two of you to get together. To do that you have to start talking about it.

Maybe everything is fine but you occasionally wonder what would happen if something happened... Could your spouse manage without you? Do they even know the state of your financial affairs? Gather the important documents, write down helpful information and thoughts, put it all in a file and share this with your spouse. Talk about how to manage the money, who the advisors are, what you have, etc. Include your spouse in decision-making and meetings with the advisors, etc. By the way, if you don't already have one, get a will (or make sure the old one is current). The will is an important form of communication that keeps the State largely out of your affairs when you die. If you don't know where to start, try http://www.uslegalforms.com. Have you done some estate planning? Hold a family meeting and lay out the general plan.

If you are not married, a trusted accountability partner is a great person with whom to communicate about these things.

There are many other areas of important communication about finances but this should get the wheels turning.

We can all improve our communication. The important thing is to communicate. Start today. Let your supervisor know where you are on that project. Tell an important person what they mean to you. Respond to that email you have been procrastinating. Oh yes, and always RSVP!

Intro

I suppose I should start this with a notice that the views expressed in this blog do not necessarily reflect the views of Antioch Church. The author does not intend nor is he authorized to make statements on behalf of Antioch Church in this venue. The author is solely responsible for the content herein....

Okay - a picture on the wall in my office shows a tree growing out of a solid rock mountain top. The statement beneath says, Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow. So here I go with my first blog - something new for me.

I hope to encourage your spiritual, attitudinal, and habitual person with practical wisdom related mostly to personal finance - or something like that. Why personal finance? Money relates to just about every area of life and affects many other areas of life. And most of us just aren't too good at it. But, just like the tree in the picture on my wall, we can grow no matter the circumstance we find ourselves in.

Beyond that, I hope to help in any way I can. I happen to know a bit about this area and I believe in sharing all that God has given me. So if you have a question or comment, or if I can help in any way, please let me know. I guess there is a way to do that on a blog. To be honest, I don't even read blogs so I'm just learning how this works.

Anyway, email dshore@antiochchurch.com if you don't want to post a viewable comment.