13 Weeks to Change a Life

For the next 13 weeks we are taking a journey...to change our finances...to change our marriages...to change our perspectives...to change our future...to change our lives.

Financial Peace University is a course about finances, of course. But it can affect every area of your life if you let it. Use it to its fullest. Join in, jump in...it will change your life.

Thirteen weeks is a long time. Thirteen weeks is not a long time. Thirteen weeks is enough time...

...to form a habit...to change your life.

Don't just take the course. Don't just show up. Read the book. Do the homework. Think about the concepts. Apply them to your life.

Practice. Try. Stumble. Get up. Practice. Try. Learn. Press on. Practice. Try. Do it. Do it for 13 weeks.

It's hard. It's not easy. But decide today to engage this process of learning and changing. Decide today which habits are holding you back or need to change. Maybe it's your spending. Maybe it's your communication with your spouse. Maybe it's your patience (think debt). Maybe it's your accountability. Maybe it's your giving. Maybe it's your attention (as in, paying more of it).

Change your habits and change your life. Thirteen weeks is enough time for that.

I don't know what you are facing but I hope in the next 13 weeks you do just that - FACE IT - and begin to take the steps necessary to change...your finances...your marriage...your perspectives...your future...your life.

If you don't read anything else today...

I ran across a couple of old posts in another blog that I wanted to pass on today. These are excellent in many respects and I wanted you to read them and apply them to your life.

http://www.leadingsmart.com/leadingsmart/2006/08/it_just_makes_c.html

http://www.leadingsmart.com/leadingsmart/2007/03/lets_give_1_mil.html

By the way - thanks for reading. I should post more often or in a predictable pattern...maybe I'll set that as a goal in the next few months...maybe! I appreciate your involvement in this blog by reading, considering, applying, and occasionally even commenting. I just wanted to say, THANKS!

Getting a job (part 2)

Earlier I wrote about my friend who had lost his job but lost no time in finding several very realistic prospects. I believe one reason he was able to capitalize on those prospects was that he had guarded his good name. Today's post discusses another reason he is going to win.

2) The proactive approach always wins. He began his search the day he lost his previous job. He looked at all job options rather than limiting his search to a narrow industry or job type. He didn't sulk or take a break, but he took care of the important business right away. He got the unemployment insurance claim process started so that if he needed it, it would be ready. He sent out resumes, searched online job postings, and networked with everyone he knew. He and his wife addressed the personal finance side of the situation. What's more, they had already prepared for the eventuality of an emergency occurring. He sought counsel.

I often talk to people who are looking for jobs. They send out resumes in a shotgun blast and wait for callbacks. It's not going to happen for them. They don't get interviews. Don't think I'm minimizing the difficulty of finding a job, especially in a tough economy. But people are being hired every day. It might as well be you.

a) Prepare for emergencies (they will happen). Because he had prepared (had an emergency fund), the stress of losing a job was somewhat diminished and my friend had the emotional and financial capital to take some time to make a good transition.

b) When you're knocked down, get back up. Don't sit and sulk for two weeks before you engage in the process. You were planning to go to work tomorrow before losing your job, so go to work tomorrow looking for a job instead.

c) Keep seeking until you find. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again! Follow up. Call again. Learn to distinguish yourself. You have only a few moments to make an impression, so be ready. Unending persistence will pay off. Read The Go-Getter by Peter B. Kyne. It's an old book that will teach you how to be one!

d) Do whatever it takes. Lay down your pride and even your dreams for a while. If you still aren't finding what you need, secure temporary work to survive. There are jobs out there. They may not be in your chosen field and they may not be appealing long term, but when you face a crisis (like losing your job) and you aren't prepared, you don't have time to wait for the perfect opportunity.

These two posts are not an exhaustive list of what to do if you lose your job, but represent my initial observations after talking to my friend about his situation.

Just Do It!

I'm tired. I've been busy. I haven't been as productive as normal. I haven't written my weekly blog for a few weeks. A lot of life has felt out of my control. So what's the problem here? ME!

My attitude, my actions, my discipline, my responses to circumstances and even feelings all have one thing in common. They are mine. I can allow them, adjust them, change them - whatever. It's up to me.

One of the things that slid this month was creating our family budget (I just finished it last night - 8+ days late). I was on vacation (excuse), then I was catching up at work (excuse), and meetings, responsibilities, interruptions (excuse, excuse, excuse)...

Cash flow planning (budgeting) is the fundamental key to success with money. A new budget should be in place and agreed upon by spouses before the month begins. But it is also the hardest thing to implement and maintain - especially when we don't feel like it.

Winning with money is all about BEHAVIOR. That's why it is so hard. If we don't change our behaviors, our finances won't change. If we do change our behaviors, our money situation will change, too. Make a plan and stick to it! Write it down and evaluate it weekly.

When it comes to doing these hard things, I often think back to what Dave Ramsey say in the first lesson of Financial Peace University: what if my child's life was on the line? It was all up to me. Could I find a way to get this stuff done? YOU BET! I could. It's a morbid question but it makes the point--

IT IS POSSIBLE. NO MORE EXCUSES! It is a question of priority and willingness to DO WHATEVER IT TAKES.

I believe there are only two reasons why we have financial distress:

1) We have made a decision that is out of our financial position (e.g., bought a home or car with a payment that throws the fixed expense out of line) or

2) We are not managing our money well.

To fix 1), SELL IT.

To fix 2), BUDGET IT.

But no matter what, in the immortal words of Nike, JUST DO IT!

Our journey

We are coordinating our second Financial Peace University at Antioch starting August 23. I was thinking back over some of our journey and thought it might encourage someone who finds themselves along the way...

When I completed my formal education, Carrie and I had been married almost two years and had about $60,000 in debt. We should have been terrified (our debt was about twice our income at that moment), but I actually rationalized that it wasn't too bad. I had bought into the "good debt, bad debt" myth and the "car debt is inevitable - at least early on" myth. Since "good debt" (student loans) and "normal" debt (cars) made up most of our debt load, I actually thought our overall debt load to be reasonable at our stage in life. And Carrie trusted me with our money.

Over the next couple of years I got a job, Carrie quit hers to stay home with our new family, we changed cars, bought a house, and lived a bunch of life. During this time our debt load varied slightly, but we were basically in the same place, only we now had a house that needed a complete remodel. Now that's a great place for a young broke family!

About this time we went through Crown Financial Ministries' small group study and started getting serious about our money. We began to make some adjustments, but with all of life that happens while starting a family and the busyness, we still weren't giving it enough focus or intensity. Debt at this time was probably around $50,000 (without the house) and we were trying to get the debt related to our remodel paid off.

Let me break here to ask a question. Why had we not gained more traction? There are lots of answers that I find are common to about everyone who is struggling:

• We had not broken the cycle of debt. We were still using credit cards while trying to pay them off.


• We were not both intimately involved in our family's finances.


• We were not in complete unity on the level of sacrifice we should make to get ahead.


• We were not using a monthly spending plan.


• We were still reacting to circumstances rather than living our financial life on purpose. We weren't being intentional enough.


• We were not exercising the hard work, discipline, and diligence needed to win with money.

What really got me motivated was watching my kids grow up and realizing just how short time really is. The 4th baby was coming. School was going to start in a couple of years for our oldest. Teenage years were soon to follow. Cars would have to be purchased and insured. The roof would need to be replaced, along with the furnace and air conditioner - not to mention retirement and college savings (for which TIME invested is one of the determinants to success).

And since our kids were born so close together, once the first hits any stage in life, the others follow, like, immediately. In other words, most of my saving for each stage in life had to take place before our first reached that stage.

Carrie has always been an amazing wife and she got behind me on reaching the goals for our future. She became especially motivated during the Financial Peace University class we coordinated.

So, things had to change. How did we get into debt? Not paying attention. Dave Ramsey says, "You can stumble into debt in our culture but you will never stumble out." How did we get out? Focused intensity. It's the only way.

New rules:

• We make a written spending plan (budget) every month, spending every dollar on paper on purpose before the month begins.


• We communicate regularly about our money, making changes to the budget as necessary. Spending all the money on paper requires us to find offsets anytime there is an additional expense we had not accounted for. And Carrie is very involved in this process.


• We use cash everywhere possible to hold ourselves accountable to our spending plan, make wiser spending decisions, and negotiate bargains.


• We don't use credit cards at all.


• We pray about this regularly.

What else?

• We saved $1,000 in the bank as a starter emergency fund.


• We began paying off our debts smallest to largest with a vengeance.


• We picked up extra work to advance the cause.


• We got very diligent about our finances.


• We held off on some wants that sometimes felt like needs.

That was just under one year ago. Today, we have about $11,000 in student loans to go. Everything else is GONE FOREVER. By the end of next year we will be debt-free (except our home), have an emergency fund of 3 - 6 months expenses, and will have cash-flowed a 10-year anniversary resort stay in Cancun.

We are on our way to Financial Peace! Two years of hard work to change our future. Well worth it! And let me assure you of one thing - WE ARE NEVER GOING BACK!

It's a given for me but let me be very clear - To God be all the praise, honor, and glory. We are applying His principles, His truth, and trusting in His provision. We are given strength by His Spirit and are encouraged by His people. He is the Lord of our lives.

I do quite a bit of financial counseling and I have yet to see a situation beyond two years of hard work and sacrifice from being cleaned up. The only question is whether the family is willing to pay the price.

If you are tired of living with the financial stress ... if you work too hard and make too much money to be this broke, please contact me or join a Financial Peace University class near you. This will change your life!